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I was a victim, then a survivor, now I choose to thrive!
Once you realize you’ve spent too much time saying yes to the wrong things, it’s normal to feel trapped. You feel as if you can’t back out now. You might worry that everyone will think you’re a quitter or that you’ll let the people around you down. But continuing with an external yes when you’re feeling an internal no is a sure recipe for burn out, exhaustion, and crankiness.
It is easy during a crisis to spend all of your time bemoaning what you want to be different. For example, my mom has been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer – her 5th time with a cancer diagnosis and she’s been on chemo treatment the entire time. I didn’t know until just as Covid-19 was making it’s appearance and it was decided it was best I didn’t visit for fear that I might be a carrier of coronavirus or something else. It would be easy at this point to spend my time regretting all the time I’ve missed together since I live 3000 miles away and to be quite honest, sometimes I do, but it does me no good.
Keep in mind crises fall into one of two categories: short-term or long-term. A short-term crisis may only last a few days to a few weeks whereas a long-term crisis can last months or even years. A short-term crisis is typically resolved quickly but a long-term crisis is ongoing.
Remember that one crisis can lead to the next. A medical crisis could become a financial crisis if you’re forced to take time off your job for a much-needed surgery. A family crisis could become a health crisis if the stress from dealing with a cheating spouse begins to affect your mental health.
It’s important to understand the different types of crises and understand which one you’re facing. But know that a crisis doesn’t have to be the end of you. You can overcome anything life throws your way. Anything.