BROWSE
Self Care
There are many ways to modulate your frustrations. Napping is one of them. In one study, nappers who took a 60-minute nap were less impulsive. I’m a napper. Like an everyday napper. Don’t take away my naps. Like really. Don’t do it.
I was in deep. And, I was falling deeper. I was Alice – falling down the rabbit hole and watching everything as it passed me by. Except, my rabbit hole wasn’t fanciful, it was dark. The dong of the clock bellowed and echoed between my ears. The mirror reflected back to me an image I did not recognize, and yet it cried when I cried. It was angry when I was angry. Falling through the center of the earth was something I longed for. It was a way out without having to be the one responsible for the path.
The truth is, that I worked myself to the point of exhaustion whereas Tiffani, who isn’t much older than my son, knew how to create boundaries and more importantly, kept them.A couple of years later, all the extra hours I put in didn’t matter. I was being terminated – wrongfully, after being a whistleblower. I even ended up on the front page of the New York Times on New Year’s Day 2018. It was then, that I realized that Tiffani had the right idea.
We needed the break from each other, and we needed to learn that we wanted each other. Note that I said ‘want’ and not ‘need.’ I’d rather be wanted than needed. Having a hard time with that concept? Think about this….God doesn’t need us, but He wants us. In fact, He seeks us.I want Scott and he wants me.
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Here’s the thing though, the people who have wronged us, do so, and move on to their next conquests. They’re not thinking about us anymore. It doesn’t matter if they did it 35 years ago, 19 years ago, or last month. Why? Because they don’t care about us. If they did, they wouldn’t have wronged us in the first place. Their time and energy aren’t spent on us, so why do we spend our time and energy on them? Thinking about them? Crying? Dwelling on them and what they’ve done to us?