There’s an idea that people buy into called “sunk costs”. It’s the belief that you’ve already invested so much time, energy, or money, you should continue to do so. For example, you might hate your career but say to yourself, “I’ve already been in this field for two years.”
The cornerstone of the IDGAF mindset is to make decisions without apologies or explanations. Think about it—you’ve probably found yourself stuck in a situation you were trying to avoid after giving someone a valid explanation.
From now on, let’s call this collection of people your “itty-bitty icky committee.” I know some of you are already replacing ‘icky’ with another word – go ahead. It’s ok. These are the people that spew ick on everything you do and try to make you feel like a jerk when you call them out on their bad behavior.
When you’re making an important life decision, it’s natural to feel a bit confused or overwhelmed. You may bring in others in the hopes that they’ll guide you into making the best decision. Often, this is driven by a need for approval and a lack of confidence in yourself.
But everything you already need to make the right decision—the best decision for you—is within yourself. You know what you need. You know what option falls in line with your values. You know what will ultimately make you happiest.
Some friends are toxic. I’ve had some in my life. And, many people have, but may not have realized it. You may have a toxic friend now. It’s time to set up boundaries. But first you need to learn how to both evaluate a friendship and recognize whether it’s a toxic one. You need to know the consequences of staying in a toxic relationship with your friend.